We all know them, the people who are admired among masses, turn heads and seem to sparkle like fictional vampires in sunlight. They are always surrounded by events and through small-town rumor mills knowledge of their whereabouts and happenings spread. Sometimes also false ones created by wannabes.
It seems all of these people have three things in common.
Ever thought about what values you have? It is the very foundation of who we are yet it is rare to stop and think about this. To have a moral code and go by that does not only create clarity for yourself but also for your peers. Figure out what you stand for and never sacrifice your principles. Respect will follow.
This is often in combination with standing up for your beliefs.
"IT" people did not get where the are by floating with the stream and beeing afraid what others think. Speaking up shows you know who you are. When you get attention, courage is an IT attribute needed to not get run over. The fishes that swim in their own current are more easily spotted by sharks. Make sure you are brave enough to face them.
Care about others
After Nelson Mandela died I met a person who had spoken to him once. He explained to me how when he shook his hand and looked into his eyes he felt like he had know him his whole life. My theory is that since IT people already are sure of themselves they do not seek validation from you. They put all their energy in that moment and truly see you. Now who are you most likely to share your best qualities with, someone who gets you or a stranger? In this case it can be both.
Everyone has potential to be whatever they want and to be the hero of the story called our life. It doesn´t hurt to be seen as one, so what are you waiting for, go get IT!